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Lucy
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| 05/15/2012 10:47 AM |
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| We've been married nearly 20 years. We are still deeply in love with each other and both have been faithful all of these years. We were talking resently about a teacher who's students found and posted nude photos from his cell phone. Well, my husband said it was normal for grown men to have such pics on their personal cell phones. Lightheartedly he said he had some that friends had sent to him, and told me I was welcome to look at his phone content anytime because he had nothing to hide. He said the pics he has are of women he doesn't know and will never meet and that he would never have pics of women he knew. So, what did I do - I looked, and there they were. I have not told him that I looked but now I'm feeling insecure and upset about the whole thing. It's all I've been thinking about for the last few days. Although I want to be honest with my husband about my feelings I don't think I can because I looked when maybe I shouldn't have. I think I wouldn't be in mental termoil if I hadn't.
I even took tasteful intimate pics of myself and texted them to him. My hopes were that he would love them (and he did tremedously) and that some how my pics would make him delete the others; mine would be so much more satisfying to him. Well, I was wrong, the other pics are still saved to his pic gallery. I have put myself through the grueling ordeal of opening those pics for a second time, and now I feel worse, and, once again, I didn't tell him. Who's being deceitful now?
I must add that he has no idea how I'm feeling or that I've seen the pics(as I said before). I know he has had the pics for a long time but just told me about them,so they have not affected his feelings toward me; he treats and relates to me as lovingly and intimately as always. We have a great healthy sexual relationship and we are open with each other about our feelings concerning sex and other marital topics. We are both believers and believe in keeping ourselves only for each other.
Are there any men out there who can give me insight on this. Am I overreacting (or under)? If they are not affecting his feelings toward me should I just leave the situation alone? Please honestly give your opinons. Thanks in advance. |
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