IdahoBoy
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| 08/16/2010 6:42 PM |
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| Okay ladies this is a question for you. Do you respect a guy more when they tell you that they like you or does it go down when that happens. Cause from my mindset I feel like a total idiot, specially when they don't like you that way. Any comments? |
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Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all thy heart and lean not on thy own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him and he will direct thy path. |
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Rose
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| 08/16/2010 6:52 PM |
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| I'm really good friends with a guy and I've known him for a long time. I'm pretty sure he likes me now and his best friend thinks he does. This guy, however, hasn't said anything about liking me to my face and it's a little frustrating because I want to know how to act around him (not leading him on, etc.). I'd say that if you've known the girl for a long time and you have a strong friendship it's good to tell her. Either way, I respect this guy that likes me because I know how nervous he must be. However, if you can gather up all your courage and flat out tell her that's the best way to go. Hope I helped!(: |
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God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of POWER, of LOVE, and of SELF-DISCIPLINE. So do not be afraid to testify about our LORD.
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IdahoBoy
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| 08/16/2010 7:04 PM |
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| Thanks that does help. The weird thing about it is I gave her a few hints that I liked her, she flat out asked me if I liked her. So I dove in and told her...She would prefer to be friends, and whats weird to me, I'm not hurt so much as worried that I hurt our friendship. But I'm not as worried now cause if this girl does respect that then I guess I should be okay. |
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Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all thy heart and lean not on thy own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him and he will direct thy path. |
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Adelynn
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| 08/17/2010 9:27 AM |
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| It was definitely better that you told her the truth! Don't be worried- she told you the truth, too, and now you both know where you are. You can take that and move on. |
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clare
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| 08/17/2010 1:43 PM |
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| Yeah I think it's better you told her. They guy I liked would tell me he liked 'someone' but wouldn't tell me who, of course I was pretty sure it was me. Whenever we would talk on the phone he would say 'love you' when we were done but he wouldn't say he liked me in the way I liked him cuz he wanted to be sure it was ok with my dad. So as much as I harassed him I respected him for not telling me he liked him until he got dad's ok. In any other case I prob would loose respect for him if he had been not telling me and just getting things clear! |
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IdahoBoy
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| 08/17/2010 5:14 PM |
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Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all thy heart and lean not on thy own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him and he will direct thy path. |
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JoJo
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| 08/19/2010 4:59 AM |
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It's better to tell them, but find a good moment, and it helps if you do know each other well enough... if she doesn't feel the same way... it's not that bad, at least you know now and can move on and dont have to waste your time on something that won't happen  haha. that's how I see it anyway... the sooner you know, the better. |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Nicole
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| 08/20/2010 12:33 AM |
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When a guy tells you he likes you, admiration spikes up. No guy has really told me that though- least not to my face.  I realize it takes an enormous amount of courage to tell someone you like them- and to go ahead and risk it, it says a lot. |
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whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect -Mark Twain |
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if uturnchic
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| 09/17/2010 10:48 PM |
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I have to agree. When a guy musters up enough courage to tell you that he likes you, is speaks a lot about them. Go ahead and take the risk.
The girl might say no, but it shouldn't hurt your freindship that much. The girl should respect your feelings, and be willing to at least stay friends, If she doesn't want to be friends anymore, then give her her space, and just be there for her. |
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We are His portion, and He is our prize; drawn to redemption by the grace in His eyes. If His grace is an ocean we're all sinking. Heaven meets earth like an unforseen kiss, and my heart it turns violently inside of my chest. I don't have time to maintain these regrets when I think about the way He loves us.
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 02/14/2011 4:29 PM |
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| Clare and Rose nailed it! |
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Roxanne
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| 02/21/2011 4:18 PM |
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| Ive never dated but if a guy liked me i would prefer he told me so that even if i didnt like him everything would be out and he could not have to wait for something thats not going to happen and i would definetly not tell your friends first b/c it would get around,"oh, so&so likes you" Or, "Do you want to go out with so&so?" that would hurt more than if you told her b/c if it were me i would say no b/c of the rumors. |
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I've recently borrowed this philosophy: Don't sweat the petty things and don't pet the sweaty things.
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JoJo
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| 03/10/2011 7:47 PM |
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| yeah, it's better being out in the open... when people stopped being open, things became complicated especially for the girls who take a stand about the guy having to make the first move, cuz he should be the man of the house, and not the girl... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Nicole
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| 03/12/2011 2:11 AM |
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| Haha well being open would be a good thing. Without communication, a relationship can go down the drain. I still say guys should go for the risk; granted, I'm not a guy and I wouldn't know what it's like to like a girl and muster up the courage to actually tell her you like her, but if you don't take the risk, you'll never know. Same for girls, though I know it's easier said than done. If she doesn't reciprocate, I'd say just be there for her, and continue being friends. Actually, I think it's really sweet and my admiration does spike up when a guy is open with a girl, and is not stingy with the compliments. |
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whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect -Mark Twain |
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 03/12/2011 1:02 PM |
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| I think that if a teen guy likes a girl enough to consider marrying her later on, he should tell her parents and ask them what time they think would be appropriate to begin expressing interest to the girl. Haha, y'all heard about the guy who proposed to me, right? That was definitely a turn-off! At this point (when one or both of you is/are under age 19 or 20) I think it's rather dangerous to consider a serious relationship. |
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A&L
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| 12/15/2011 1:21 AM |
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Hmmm.... assuming the guy was a good friend, here...If he was a good friend, he would know my opinions on dating (I don't) and my reasons (I'm waiting until I'm older...plus, I don't feel like dating is in God's plan for me).
So. I would still rather know, I think. If he said something like "I actually like you but I'm trying to forget about it because I know you're not dating at this point in your life" or "I think you should know that I like you...but I'm not going to bug you to date or do anything about it because I know how you feel about dating"
That would mean a LOT. |
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God's Girl
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| 12/18/2011 7:45 PM |
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I agree with the rest of you girls. I would like to know if a guy likes me, and I would like that he had the courage to tell me, as long as he doesn't try to pressure me into dating him if I say I don't like him in that way.
I do have a question along that same line, except for the guys. Would you respect a girl more if she told you she liked you, or would you start distancing your self from her? |
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Lucky Albatross
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| 12/19/2011 5:40 AM |
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To the OP: I had a girl tell me she'd give any guy who could to walk up to her and ask her out at least one date for having the courage to put themselves out there. So, it can't hurt!
To God's Girl: It would take alot of the trouble out of dating if you did! I would take it on it merits, if a girl admitted she liked me. (Do I like her back? Could I see myself dating her? Etc.)Beyond that, I would probably take my friend's stance on people admitting to liking me. If they can admit to liking you to your face, I'll at least give them a chance |
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One step at time,
I trust these feet of mine,
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God's Girl
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| 12/21/2011 7:36 PM |
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| Lucky Albatross: I'm not saying that I would ever gain the nerve to say this to a guy, but what if she was a good friend of yours? Would you still treat the situation the same, or would it change? Would a guy say he didn't like the girl back just so they wouldn't lose the friendship if something happened and they broke up? |
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Lucky Albatross
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| 12/24/2011 5:12 AM |
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Most guys are clueless (Myself included many a time! ) about that sort of thing, so it would definitely suprise me, but beyond that, I would treat the situation just the same. It would actually make the question I ask myself before dating much, much easier! I really only ask myself one question before seriously dating someone: Can I see myself with this girl long term? If I can't for whatever reason, I probably would let her down easy, for the sake of our friendship.
Take note I can only speak for myself, but hope that helped! |
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One step at time,
I trust these feet of mine,
To carry me on to where I belong.
Mike Zito |
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God's Girl
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| 12/27/2011 7:28 PM |
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| It did help, thanks! |
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