Well, my husband was acting like this and told me he was not doing anything not to worry or be paranoid. Then I walked through the room and caught him on a porn site. He told me there was nothing wrong with what he was doing. We discussed it and he said that if it bothered me he would not do it. Then when he was online playing fantasy sports I would walk by and he would change the screen quickly. He also plays online games where there is chat capablilities.
This went on for awhile and any time I would bring it up in conversation I was told that I was overreacting and paranoid and that I should trust him and respect his privacy. So I agreed and left it alone. That was a mistake.
We were expecting a response on a purchase that he had coming back on his email. I got up early one morning and decided to check to see if we received it yet. I had not looked at his email in a long time. He checked my daily and complained about my Christian jokes with my friends. I actually got yelled at for exchanging these sweet and cute jokes.
What I found in his email blew me away. There were emails from his friends with sex jokes which included some horribly explicit photos, emails from Adult Friend Finder, an adult sex site to meet and cheat to name a few things, emails from a woman saying she loved him and more that I won't put on here. I was crying and crying. My heart was broken. As I read each email and his responses I felt so betrayed and used. He told her he loved her and wanted her and that they were going to be together and she could adopt our 10 year old son when they got married. (Did I die and miss it?) He was also a member of a swingers site. There was so much more that I found that it would take me days to put here. I confronted him that day and I was crying and very upset. He laughed in my face. I had sent the 10 year old to the neighbors house but our 19 year old was at home. He was very upset with his dad. They never got along anyway but this really did not go over well. He did not want to go to counseling or anything. We ended up seperating and filing for divorce. When my attorney told him he had to leave the house,(he was being very mean to me and the kids and actually hit the older child and knocked him across the room) he came in and stole our son's laptop that he used for college. Apparently he could not be off the porn sites for even one day. He was that addicted. We had to call 911 to get my son's computer back that my parents had bought him for graduation. My parents are on social security so that gift was a big price for them to pay and then have him take it. When we got the computer back it had a virus and porn would pop up no matter what site you were on. Then when he had the 10 year old for the weekend he showed him porn. My attorney and his got involved and told him that he would lose any rights to the child if he continued this behavoir. His comment to me had been that it would make him a man. I was shocked and overwhelmed at the extent of this problem. We are divorced and the children live with me. They only see him when they have to. It is very sad. 
Be very careful with porn addition, it can ruin everything. I had no idea how badly this can get into someone where they feel they have to have it and begin to believe that what they see on those sites is okay. It is not on any level. |