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Mr. T.User is Offline

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09/26/2010 9:33 AM  
Hello. I am simply seeking some female perspectives. If a woman states: "but just so it's clear, all I don't want anything but conversation" after a seperation can that be taken to mean exactly that. We are told in the book "For Men Only" that when asking for "space" a woman is truly wanting a hug - to be pulled close, wrapped up in your arms, and know emotionally that everything is okay between the two of you. Before this our sexual life has been amazing - one of the apparent rarities that exists within the book, and more noticably in real life after reading these on-line forums. We have recently seperated. Nothing went majorly wrong in our relationship. I genuinely feel she needs to discover who she is - both personally and within Gods will. I have learning and growing to do in those areas as well. I guess my question is this: How do you know when a woman wants EXACTLY what she says she wants? It also stated within the book that if you come out and ask her what she wants that it becomes meaningless because she had to tell you what she wanted. So please, ladies, have a little compassion for a guy who is truly trying to understand and make love last...when is space needed...and when is it not? Is there any way to "truly" know what's going through her mind? Any advice would be both welcomed and appreciated! Please, for love's sake..
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02/22/2011 3:41 AM  
Dear Mr. T I cannot respond directly to your question however, i was with a mature women this weekend and she said something very profound to me. she said that she is reading a book and she has learned that she has to communicate her needs directly. i have the same problem with just friends male and female. They have trouble understanding how to support me or make me feel loved as it were. To indirectly respond to your question, most females do not realize that we have been lied to. Our prince charming did not come with the ability to read my mind. The thing that most men need to realize is that we give hints of what our needs are, so with empathy on guys i think personally the onus is on me to communicate what my need is. I know when i say"i need space" it means i need to be held, need you to give me affirmation,need you to do the chores for the day etc...that sentence means a lot. When i disappear without a word or go shopping or go to a restaurant to read a book, go visit a friend...i am saying i need space. So what you need to ask yourself is, in her busy-ness does she have the space to take time out. I know guy friends who insist on their girlfriends taking time out for a girls night out or they book them into Spa's for a weekend or even a day. I guess what i am saying, is if i do it or directly communicate something then i mean it i.e. disappearing acts or a request for something. If i say something that cannot be quantified or vague, there is a lot that i am saying and to add to it i may be experiencing internal confusion and do not know how to articulate what i need. But a hug is a safe bet. Hope this helps :)
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