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allofgrace
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| 10/01/2011 10:43 AM |
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I am thinking I should have cosmetic surgery. I am asking here, because I would like a completely honest opinion.
I am very thin, and very small chested. I guess I have always wished I had larger breasts, but it didn't really bother me. I was still happy and felt desirable and sexy. Now, since reading these books? I feel like keeping myself covered up. I don't want to be compared to everyone else he sees - I KNOW I do not measure up. I feel self-conscious during sex now. Here's a good analogy: I almost feel as I would feel if I had been singing in public for many years and someone just took me aside and said, "You know, you really have an awful voice." Humiliated and ashamed.
Just for the record, my husband (of 15 years) is very kind, he complements me and treats me well. We love each other very much. I feel sorry for him, actually. He is stuck with someone who, compared to others, is so unsexy. I have started wearing padded bras, so that he does not have to feel ashamed of me in front of others. I have seen him looking at other women, advertisements, and magazines in the stores occasionally, but he always denies it - he really tries, and he doesn't want to hurt me.
What do you think - would it be worth the expense and other risks to have cosmetic surgery? After all, we do correct other imperfections like crooked teeth, etc.
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tomasevans
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| 01/25/2012 2:01 PM |
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| I think you should go for it! All kinda of people get breast augmentations. It doesn't mean that you are any different than anyone else, and it doesn't mean that you are weird. It just means you want to change. Sometimes, change is good. |
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inlimbo
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| 01/25/2012 4:13 PM |
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| @allofgrace,
I am married to a wife who prior to children was an "A" cup, and after children.... less...
I am well aware that it has affected her self-image even though I never complained and always tried to make her feel good with what she has...
Small breasts have the same amount of nerve endings, sending the same pleasurable signals to the other parts of the body. larger does not mean "better" except for you when you look in the mirror!
I/we have looked into cosmetic surgery, and to be honest I can't recommend it due to all the potential and real issues. Leaving aside the scarring, possible leakage, and a host of other things I found in my research, many men will tell you they don't feel the same... They are colder, harder, less naturally looking when you are undressed. In a bra, under a dress... yes they do look nice.
The truth is, your husband is happy as are many, many, other men out there who are very satisfied with and turned on by small breasts...just accept and enjoy with your husband instead of comparing yourself with others. |
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Sashannadelina
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| 02/01/2012 11:09 AM |
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Firstly, I think that comparing small breasts to other imperfections like crooked teeth, is a bad analogy. Frequently, crooked teeth lead to much more extensive problems later in life. Teeth with bad alignment can wear down badly so that when you are old you have to have bridges or dentures, etc. Eyesight is similar. Poor eyesight causes real dangers for driving, can lead to persistent headaches, etc.
Secondly, if you've read this book you will know that it is hard for a man not to look, but it doesn't mean that he is dwelling on what he sees. If he truly loves you, he will not be thinking, "I wish she had bigger breasts" when he sees you naked. Plus men are not all attracted to the same thing. I know that my husband does not like model thin, or even movie-star thin women, even though they are set up as the standard. He is also not attracted to big busted women. I'm pretty average, but he thinks I'm just the best ever!
I think if you are insecure you should be willing to talk to your husband about it. The purpose of the books are not to make you insecure in who you are. They are to encourage you to "flaunt what you got!" In all honesty, I know my husband thinks I'm sexiest, not when I'm at my thinnest, or during the time of the month when my breasts are bigger, but when I feel that I am sexy. If you have small breasts and now are concerned about it, I would definitely talk to him about it. Be honest and open about your insecurities, and if he is gentle and reassuring, be willing to move past them. You may need to ask him for prayer in this area, that you can be willing to accept and love the body that God gave you.
(One last thing: I'm a woman and I can't help but notice women in magazines with big breasts. I mean, they're totally hanging out there, as a distraction. But that's the key word: distraction.)
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