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Scarlett
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| 04/04/2009 10:52 AM |
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I am a women with quite some testimony Jesus really steped in and delivered me from alot. During my b.C years (and even after I devoted my life to Christ) I dated alot of wordly men which resulted in feelings of hurt, betryal and the overall believing of the lie that I just was not good enough. I have since recieved healing for all my past pain and am alive with a burning hope and expectation for the future!!
Recently God blessed me with the most wonderfull godly man, a man who is pure and seeks Jesus above all else. The dilema I am however facing is that he has no experience in relationships and I only have experience in all the wrong kinds i relationships. I really love him and want to honour him in all I do, I so badly want to do thigs right but what in the world is right when it comes to christian God fearing men? All of the previous rules no longer apply and I dare not try and navigate this as i go along at the risk of hurting him...
If ANY christian men can be of, even the tiniest bit, help I will be so gratefull!
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Travis
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| 04/05/2009 9:07 AM |
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Well, first off, if you believe God has brought this man into your life, then God's saying that he has prepared you for this relationship. Now, if it works out, thats totally up to your choices.
The relationship I have with my gf is the first one I've ever been in and the same with her. So, don't lose hope that this wont work out.
You talked about what is right. Well, you have to understand that the man is the leader in the relationship, and that he leads you. He can chose to lead you in the wrong or right direction based off of his Faith with God. So, any choices you make to honor him will be governed by your man. I'll tell you this right up front, even though you don't want to hurt him, it will happen. Godly relationships are tough .
To better understand your question, are you saying "how do you honor God fearing men?"
And also, have you read For Women Only ?
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CB126
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| 07/26/2009 6:43 PM |
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Scarlett I'm also in your shoes right now. God has brought this wonderful godly man into my life, first as a friend and now as my boyfriend. He and I have both agreed to maintain a pure relationship. The struggle I have is that I gave away my virginity years ago and he maintains his. He tells me he is ok with it and knows that I am fully committed to a pure relationship with him now, but this is so new to me. I struggle with feeling he likes me or is into me, and I feel awkward when we are alone.
The content of FWO has been helpful, and as Travis mentioned God first made us friends which has allowed us the comfort of open communication. My advice, Scarlett, is to pray. I have come to understand that I need to just give it up to God. When I have prayed about talking openly about something I struggle with, God has given me the words so not to hurt his feelings and make it about communication vs. judgement. |
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Justaguy
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| 07/30/2009 4:03 PM |
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CB126, you have made a very good suggestion to pray. And when you're done, pray some more! We as Christians have to recognize just how important prayer really is. Also, we need to know just how important spending time meditating on His Word is. These two are literally the bread that our Christianity LIVES on!! The moment we start neglecting His Word, is the moment we start to starve ourselves, and it results in spiritual malnutrition. I guarantee it!!
Scarlett, you must recognize a couple things as a new Christian:
One, I believe there is a "grace period" with any new Christian. We've all seen it. Someone is, by the grace of God, led to see the truth about their own life, the need for Christ, and accepts Christ as their personal savior. This is often accompanied by a burning desire to live for Christ, and is a wonderful thing to witness. This period needs to be spent getting to know God intimately , for it is then that we start living our lives according to His will. We need to use this time also to specifically deal with each sin in our lives. This is done so that Satan does not have any hold on us for Sin that remains undealt with. God accepts our asking for His forgiveness of our Sin (a general, blanket statement), but we must ask Him to reveal to us the sins (specific instances) that we need to seek forgiveness from Him, from others, and in some cases, make right (restitution). Then we can have complete freedom.
Second, to any Christian, God instructs us to "Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." Prov 3:5. We need to understand that our previous life was a life without Christ. So it would make sense that we're in new territory, and the ways we learned to deal with certain things in our lives back then are probably, in most cases, about the worst way we could deal with them now. Where do we turn? Again, the answer lies in His Word: "I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you and watch over you." Psalm 32:8.
Thirdly, Satan never rests. He will continually harass any believer into believing a lie, and the easiest way Satan can do this is to bring up past failures and beat us with them! God's forgiveness is perfect. There is nothing that Satan can "dig up" on us that God hasn't forgiven us already for! That's why He says "The Truth shall set you free"! What a wonderful statement!
Lastly, in relation to what Travis mentioned, there is a Spiritual Principle in adhering to our Godly rolls in a relationship. Men to their rolls, and women to theirs. Don't discount the tremendous blessings that come from these rolls, after all, God designed them! Just because men think that their wives aren't doing what their supposed to do, or because wives think that their husbands are not doing their roll, does not give us the right to usurp our partner's roll! Great hardship can only be the result.
I truely hope that helps in some, small way.
Sincerely,
Tim |
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