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jrmddrgUser is Offline

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04/05/2010 4:42 PM  
My wife just read the foe women only book. then we did the questioniar, in it she marked that she found me not to be attactive or desirable and wasn't sure she could change that. You see we are trying she had an affair and I was an *** for years before that and have had some anger issue due to her going back to school. Any idea how I make myself attacyive to my wife.
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04/13/2010 10:50 PM  
Have you read 'For Men Only"? I learned that I needed to rethink some things after reading it and discussing it together. Getting the book and asking her sincere questions about it might be one way to show that you are sorry for being an ****, and a way to show her that you love her and want to make your relationship a priority.
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04/13/2010 10:59 PM  
I think you'll find from the information in the book that what makes a man attractive to his wife is not exactly what makes a wife attractive to her husband. I think you'll find that if you've been taking care of yourself and your hygiene it will be less important for you to go to the gym and more important to go to the flower shop, movies, fun outings for her and even to church if she goes there. I bet she'd find it attractive if you made dinner on a night when she is busy with homework.
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04/22/2010 8:04 PM  
Can I just say that I am married to a wonderful man who is very good to me.  I could not ask for a better man.  He isn't perfect of course (nobody is) but he is a christian and tries to please God in our marriage.  I often feel extremely guilty for the secret that i have lived with for years.  I am not attracted to my husband at all.  I think that he has a very handsome face and is well groomed, however he has gained about 40 pounds since we got married less than 7 years ago.  I used to be VERY attracted to him...to the point to where I was the one that had a difficult time behaving myself when we were dating and engaged (as far a God's expectations for a relationship outside of marriage).  But not now.  I have sex with him b/c I love him and I know that it is such a huge need for a man to have it, but I don't enjoy it at all.  The bad part about it is that he knows it.  I have tried to hide it, but he knows me too well and he can tell that I would rather do anything else.  I like feeling close to him, however that always leads to sex, which I could do without.  I never used to be like this in our early years.  I used to love it.  Men are supposed to be the superficial/visual ones(no disrespect intended), not the women.  I am a christian woman and I desire to please my GOD and my husband, but in doing so I have to admit that I have to force myself to accept the fact that I will never be fulfilled in that area of my life.  Now.... the difference between me and a man in my situation, is that I don't sit around fantasizing about being with different men.  I do wish that I could enjoy the sexual part of my marriage though.  Is there any hope for me?  For my poor husband?
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